"I’m afriad it isn’t much, but you asked on such late notice and, well, you know what they say about the project management triangle—"
Margot shuts the door to Alison’s craft room behind her with a muted click. “What do they say about it?” she asks, no hint of teasing in her voice. Maybe a touch of annoyance, or impatience. Her muscles are coiled, as always. Margot leans against the door, but Alison can’t shake the feeling that her friend is about to take flight.
"Well," Alison begins to explain, opening the cabinet where she’s stored Margot’s centerpiece, "there’s fast, cheep, and good. One can, proverbially, only pick two. And since I’m doing this for free-"
"And you already mentioned the fast part."
Alison turns around, wrapped arrangement in her arms. Margot has — advanced — from her perch at the door and Alison finds herself staring first into Margot’s depthless eyes and then at her red-stained mouth.
"I did. Mention that."
Margot plucks at the cellophane between them, the smallest of smiles beginning in her eyes. “I suppose beggars can’t be choosers,” she says, not giving an inch despite Alison’s antsy movements. “I’m going,” Margot pronounces, still not moving. “But I’ll call you if I come across any further floral needs.”
Alison doesn’t say please, but she thinks it, and the answering smirk on Margot’s face says beg.
Raising her hand to a pathetic half-wave, Alison thinks she just might.
#i don’t know but i like it#they meet at a self defense course#alison teaches margot how to shoot a gun#and margot urges alison to join her at the gym#margot also scares the shit out of donnie (she may or may not have punched him in the face once)
Massive TRIGGER WARNING.
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A violent serial rapist listed on the national sex offender registry appears to be looking for a girlfriend on a Hamilton dating website.
A profile for Najim Khairzad, who pleaded guilty in 2009 to raping four women — choking some nearly to the point of unconsciousness — is on Plenty of Fish, a free matchmaking service.
"Kindness and easy to get along with are what I’m most known for," the profile says.
It is unmistakably Khairzad’s photo and it is the same username — afgstylz83 — he frequently went by in chat groups and on gaming and dating sites before his arrest.
Some of the profile fits Khairzad’s history: he is 31, about 5-foot-10, he does have “some college” education and lives in Hamilton.
Khairzad is out of prison, confirms Correctional Services Canada. In fact, it is his second time out.
Parole Board of Canada documents show Khairzad was out on statutory release in November 2012. Less than nine months later, he was back behind bars after violating several of his conditions by drinking and driving through the very north Hamilton neighbourhood where he had picked up sex workers and raped them.
Documents show his next statutory release date — the last possible day he could be in custody — was Jan. 29, 2014. His warrant expires June 6, 2014, meaning his current parole conditions extend until then.
His conditions include reporting all intimate sexual and non-sexual relationships and friendships with women to his parole supervisor, not accessing pornography and having no contact with sex workers. He must also live at a halfway house.
Though he had sex offender counselling, the parole board assessed him as having a “preoccupation with sex” and posing a “high moderate risk” of reoffending.
Attempts to reach Khairzad for this story were unsuccessful.
The Plenty of Fish profile says, “Wants to date but nothing serious.” Interests include “having some drinks” although that is a violation of Khairzad’s conditions and lists him as having a car although he is prohibited from driving because the rapes took place in his cars.
"I saw his face and I felt sick," says a woman whom Khairzad contacted through Plenty of Fish.
The woman, who does not want her name published out of fear for her safety, says she and Khairzad once had the same circle of friends. She followed his high-profile rape case closely.
The note he sent her Wednesday asked if she’d like to meet. She believes he does not remember her from years ago.
But she remembers him.
"I blocked him and reported him to Plenty of Fish. My concern is that women are going to be raped."
Jan. 22, 2014, a profile for afgstylz with a photo of Khairzad appeared on another dating site called RateMyBody. “I’m kind, mature and I know what I want in life,” it says.
On Disabled Dating Canada, afgstylz says he has epilepsy and is a “friendly, down to earth guy who is new to this.”
Six years ago, Khairzad cruised the streets of Hamilton picking up sex workers. He was, his victims would later testify, handsome and polite. They got into his car and drove to dark parking lots.
Then he attacked.
He raped one woman four times before she got free.
The five-month string of assaults ended in the pre-dawn hours of Jan. 11, 2009. A police officer saw a man and woman arguing in a car. When he pulled them over, the terrified woman said she had been raped. Khairzad, a 25-year-old Mohawk College student, was arrested.
Later that night, police got a call from another sex worker. A man had attacked her earlier. The licence plate she gave matched Khairzad’s. A third woman came forward with another plate number, registered to another member of Khairzad’s immediate family.
Six sex workers came forward and Khairzad was charged with three counts of choking, one count of assault, three counts of sexual assault, three counts of forced anal intercourse, one count of threatening and three counts of forcible confinement.
Unbelievably, he got bail.
That’s when I met him.
I went to Khairzad’s home and interviewed him.
Khairzad told me this: “I’m not a bad person at all. Things happen to people. They can’t control their situation. People make mistakes. No one’s perfect. Nothing will happen again.”
When I pressed him on what his “mistake” was, he answered: “Making the mistake of dealing with those types of people. Sex trade workers. They’re all druggies.”
After my column on Khairzad was published, his bail was revoked and he pleaded guilty to sexually assaulting four women.
Court heard he is a sadist who gets pleasure from inflicting pain.
Dec. 8, 2009, he was sentenced to four years and four months.
That was the last time I saw Khairzad. Just before he was led away, he addressed the court.
"I am deeply sorry for the distress I have caused. This will never happen again."
Please pass this around - he is currently in Hamilton. I want everyone to know his face and his name so they can steer clear of him and remain safe.
2. Has an anime ever made you cry?
I should preface this by saying that I don’t watch/haven’t watched much anime, but I think Princess Mononoke made me cry? It’s been a LONG time.
58. Do you correct people when they make mistakes?
Sometimes. I used to be much more aggro about it, but… I correct people when it is important or when I want them to know that they are wrong.
60. Do you ever play board games or other non-computer games?
Rarely. I actually tend to get really overstimulated during group games. I had a seizure during Apples to Apples once, and the last time I played Cards Against Humanity I started randomly sobbing. Also, I GET VERY AGGRO ABOUT WINNING. Oh! I actually DO enjoy and play games with meandrous and her kiddo. There is less pressure, obviously, playing with a six-year-old, though I did work pretty hard for that Yhatzee win.
86. What age do people usually mistake you for?
Young 20s. I work in retail, and pretty much blend in with my early-college co-workers. The other day, someone thought my sister (who is 8 years younger than I am) was older than me, but I’m not sure what that means.
87. What’s the most notes you’ve ever had on a post?
Uh, like. ten.
89. What are five things you want to do before you die?
Get paid for writing something
Hug all of my friends at least once.
Not worry about anything
Not have to be afraid when I walk alone at night
Slip in some radioactive sewage and get super powers :):)
ASK ME! Fill that inbox!1. Where are you from?2. Has an anime ever made you cry?3. Post a screenshot of your tumblr activity page4. A musical artist you love that isn’t well known?5. How would you describe your sense of humour?6. Would you ever give up your life to save someone else’s?7. Did you make any resolutions for this year? What were they?8. Last 3 blogs on your dashboard, not including any of your own.9. Put your music player of choice on shuffle and list the first 3 songs10. Can you curl your tongue?11. Can you do any other accents other than your own?12. Who would be your ideal partner?13. Who is your favorite anime character?14. Most used word?15. Most used phrased?16. Inspiration behind your URL?17. Inspiration behind your blog title?18. Is there something you would never do?19. Is there anything you should be doing right now?20. Is there a song which can bring you to tears instantly?21. If you could study anything, what would it be?22. If money was no object, where would you move to?23. If you could spend a week anywhere in the world, where would it be and why?24. Have you ever online dated?25. Have you ever been in love?26. Have you ever had a secret admirer?27. Favorite song?28. Favorite food?29. Favorite movie?30. Favorite foreign food?31. Are you ticklish?32. Are you a good liar?33. Are you pursuing your dreams?34. Are you scared of the future?35. Are you happy with who you are?36. Are you a clean or messy person?37. Are you a good judge of character?38. Are you a very open or private person?39. Are you more attracted to men or women?40. How old are you?41. How tall are you?42. How did you get your name?43. How many posts do you have?44. How many posts have you liked?45. How are you feeling right now?46. How many followers do you have?47. How would you like to be remembered?48. Do you have a crush?49. Do you want children?50. Do you have any pets?51. Do you play video games?52. Do you have much of an ego?53. Do you believe in soul mates?54. Do you prefer to text or call?55. Do you suck or bite lollipops?56. Do you like long or short hair?57. Do actions speak louder than words?58. Do you correct people when they make mistakes?59. Do you post mainly reblogs, or your own content?60. Do you ever play board games or other non-computer games?61. What makes you angry?62. What is your birthday?63. What shoe size are you?64. What are you strengths?65. What is your dream job?66. What color is your hair?67. What color is your eyes?68. What do your parents do?69. What is you middle name?70. What are your weaknesses?71. What is your zodiac sign?72. What’s your lucky number?73. What perfume do you wear?74. What are you allergic to?75. What’s the meaning of life?76. What is your favorite color?77. What is your favorite accent?78. What makes you uncomfortable?79. What is your personality type?80. What is your #1 favorite anime?81. What type of music do you like?82. What or whom do you miss right now?83. What’s your favourite number, and why?84. What programs do you currently have open?85. What do you typically have for breakfast?86. What age do people usually mistake you for?87. What’s the most notes you’ve ever had on a post?88. What’s the longest you’ve ever gone without sleep?89. What are five things you want to do before you die?90. What fandoms would you consider yourself a part of?
Caroline Dhavernas interview with TV Guide Magazine [x]
This sort of behavior used to irritate me until I learned about how invasive paparazzi are in America. There are no laws against it.
I’ve also realized, that by flipping off the camera, the pictures can’t be sold to magazines because of “profanity”. So really, she’s just protecting herself.
i did not know that.
#tat took kathryn as her date
Ok, so… this isn’t what this blog is about but since you brought it here we’ll go ahead and go there but for anyone who decides they need to respond this will be my only word on the subject, any future asks on the subject will be ignored.
In short you are wrong. The two sex binary is a flawed social construct that literally has no basis in reality whatsoever. Some form if intersex characteristics happen in approximately 2% of all live births in humans. That’s 2 out of every 100 which in a world with billions of people is a lot of people that don’t fit into either “male” or “female” and that obviously doesn’t include trans* people which makes the statistics higher. And that also doesn’t include the people who aren’t technically intersex but also don’t fully fit the biological construct of what a male or female “should” be which is far far more people that you realize or most medical doctors willing to admit.
In our society sexing is based on 5 criteria:
- genes - XX or XY chromosomes with variations happening for XO, XXY, and XXX
- gonads - ovaries or testes except that people with vaginas can have testes, people with penises can have ovaries, and people can be born with both ovaries and testes
- genitalia - a penis or a vagina except that people can be born with both and men can have vaginas and women can have penises
- secondary sex characteristics - in theory men are supposed to have large amounts of thick, coarse body hair, a low waist/hip ratio, broad shoulders, undeveloped breasts, and deep voices while women are supposed to have small amounts of fine, light colored, soft body hair, a high waist/hip ratio, petite shoulders, developed breasts, and high voices except that in real life it’s entirely possible for people to have combination of those characteristics or for men to have “feminine” secondary sex characteristics and women to have “masculine” secondary sex characteristics
- hormone patterns - in theory men are supposed to be high testosterone and low estrogen and women are supposed to have high estrogen and low testosterone but in reality there is far far more variation within “each” sex than between “each” sex including women having “masculine” hormone patterns and men having “feminine” hormone patterns all without those people having any sort of “disease” or “disorder” or anything being wrong with them at all.
Once we take into account all 5 of those criteria an actual majority of people don’t line up with either male or female in all 5 areas which means it’s not possible to classify most people along the strict binary the way people like you would like to. So, sure, there are things in this world that qualify as technically male or technically female but the idea that there’s some sort of scientific basis for a strict binary where there are only ever two options and people are only ever male or female is laughable. It’s utter bullshit and trying to force people into those boxes when they don’t fit does a hell of a lot more harm than good. Nothing positive comes from that kind of bigotry while actually being willing to accept people as they are or as they choose to identify has legitimately positive outcomes in the world.
The main source material for all of this comes from Anne Fausto-Sterling’s book Sexing the Body. She’s got a Ph.D. in biology so I’m pretty sure she knows what she’s talking about and I’m willing to bet she knows a hell of a lot more about this stuff than you do, dear anon. Try educating yourself instead of pretending that you’re an expert because you spent a few weeks learning the bare minimum of this material in high school at some point in your life.
this is the best post i’ve seen in a millennium
Mad Girl’s Love Song || Fisher
Now I want to answer these combined. Favorite onomatopoeia: SNIKT (thanks forever, Wolverine)
Bless you, anon.